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Mind Your Language

‘Shut up ! You don’t know how to respect your elders’

‘What happened ? What wrong did I say ? Telling the truth is sin that you are getting so violent’ Anushka replied angrily.

‘You don’t know how to behave elders.  have your parents not taught you how to talk with elders’

‘Don’t talk about my parents. I am telling you again. I know very well how to behave with elders. But elders must also understand feeling of younger’ Anushka said coming out from the kitchen.

‘Ignoring the advices of elders, argue rudely with mother in law, create nuisance, ruckus in home, these all these Sanskar your parents have taught you ‘

‘I am not arguing you rudely I am just replying you on your nonsense arguments. Why do you after me all the time ? I don’t see, you only single me out and begin to preach. Am I only guilty in whole family or committing blunder that you are after  me’ Anushka replied  putting dirty cloths in washing machine.

“I shall never tolerate the way you are responding. Control your tongue. I am watching you. You are getting rude day by day’

‘What will you do ? Will you cut my tongue ? First go and think honestly the comments of other members of family.’ Anushka replied switching on the button of washing machine.

‘Shut up ! You brat, uncivil, ill mannered, arrogant Where is Rituraj ? Let him come I tell him all about the drama you have been creating in home all the day’ 

Anushka came back in her room sobbing. She threw herself on bed, pushing her head on pillow. Her sobbing gets increased. She begins to scrutinize her words, scolding of her mother in law. She cleans the tears rolling down on her face. Later her sobbing gradually diminishes. She had become silent.

‘What happened Anushka ? Why are you sad ? It seems you wept bitterly. See, your eyes are looking swollen. Is everything ok ?’

Samreen continues “ Will you not Share with me your problems with your friend, I promise I will try to ease your hardship.

‘Today, I had  again fight with my mother in law. This wordy duel is becoming daily phenomena. I am fed up with such things’ Anushka replied cleaning the dirt in her eyes.

‘Oh My God , For this petty issue you have made your eyes swollen. Anushka ! You know who is responsible for all such nuisance. Language,’ Samreen replied smilingly. 

‘What do you mean by language ? Do I speak Chinese which is creating problem for her in understanding ‘

‘No you speak same language but difference is one’s is supported and based on heart and other by mind’ Samreen says after a pause she continues.

‘First let me make it clear as to what is language. Language is medium through which we express our feeling, our thought, our ideas with each others. Language is means of communicating and this set human being apart from other animals. Language is also a mirror of culture, mindset, temperament and  social environment ’

‘ Pls don’t give me definition of language.’

‘No I an not giving you definition of language rather trying to make you understand that what you have mentioned about the Chinese language it was in fact medium of communication which human civilization developed for their own convenience to communicate. Every nation have their own medium of expression and even  every hundreds of kilometer people communicate through new language. Nowadays people put their photos on facebook and other networking sites in different styles it is also sort of language which say thousands of words. Body gesture is as lethal as words you utter during conversation’

Shut up ! You crazy ! how did you link our fight with facebook, Ha’

‘I am not wrong at all. Did you not give contemptuous, derogatory or eagle look, at your mother in law, walking here and there in anger  when you had wordy due. This all gesture are sort of language which expresses your feelings which needs to be taken care.’ Samreen laughs looking at the frowned face of Anushka.

‘What your rubbish arguments relate to language which causes tension between me and my mother in law’
‘Similarly fundamental of every human relation depends on communication. There is norm set up by system of nature when two or group of people communicate. A person talk with parents which is based on specific norms, a wife speaks with her husband based on certain norms set up by the system we made and live on.

Samreen after a pause continues “Remember those days when you were a kid, We both used to play together in your garden and how your Dad bow down to your some wishes and how sometimes you got scolded for your obstinacy. Remember that day when we were in college and how did you react when one of the boys tried to tease us. You gave one of them strong slap whereas we were trying to run away from the scene. We had ridiculed you for your stupid behavior but since then we came to know that you are dominated by heart you applies little mind you didn’t think that boys can further tease and harm us’

‘I don’t scare of anything, things which I don’t like I say straight away “ Anushka said smiling

‘Absolutely, There are two types of people in our society. One who is dominated by heart and other is dictated through his mind’

 ‘You mean I am dominated by heart ‘ 

‘Yes, and your this very intrinsic pacifies, gives you solace and since you don’t apply your mind that is why because of you chaos, tension, takes place in your surrounding. Control your heart thereby it controls the language you use in front of others. 

‘How can it happen, Should I remain silent ? Anushka asks wistfully 

No, Never you know, one of the urdu poets said “ Khamoshi Se Musibat Aur Bhi Sangeen Hoti Hai” hence you should not be silent instead sometimes on particular occasion try to bring out the words from the conduit of your mind because situation sometimes demands utilization of brain instead of your heart despite the fact that heart dictates to your every acts’

‘So what do you expect from me ? Should I apply my mind while dealing the household matter Why don’t you think that my mind lives in my heart? Anushka asks changing her posture.

‘Very True, then why don’t you think that your mother in law heart lives in her mind. She loves you more than the other members of family. Her loving heart speaks for your betterment which you take in negative way. She might  be after you all the time for your betterment.’ Samreen says looking at Anushka eyes after a pause she again continues

‘If you don’t trust on me then at least think about the fact that Guardians of family have to entertain the wishes of every members of family therefore they need to apply their mind and sometimes have to sacrifice their hearts in order to bring cordial environment’

‘What do you want to prove my mother in law is right and I am wrong ‘ Anushka scowled

‘I am not her to justify wrong or right I advise you only to mind your language while dealing either small or big issues. Situation demands that the words which come out from mouth should travel through the positive conduit of your mind then every thing will be all right. It will bring tranquility happiness in environment’

‘Anushka baby  get up, Anushka get up, See the clock’ Rekha pats her shoulder.

Anushka opens her eyes. She looks around surprisingly left and right.

‘How long you will be sleeping. Yesterday you told me that school bus would come half an hour before today. Will you not prepare for school.’ Rekha said coming out from the room

‘Yes Mom’ She look up at clock it is 7: 30. She sits on bed. She mumbles smilingly ‘Oh that was surprising nightmare and you kaminee Samreen let me come to School I teach you.


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