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Self Motivation

Why do we fall prey of despondency, frustration after every debacle ? Why do we loose hope after facing setback ? Why do we take destructive steps when things don't go according to plan ? Why do we conceal our shortcomings that cause hurdle and blame on others for our failures ?

Such kinds of WHYs keep revolving in our inner circle of brain in order to figure out the reasons so that it could seek out solutions of it. Our every steps whether right or wrong are controlled by our thoughts which show directions, paves the way of our success and failures. When pillar of our thought gets weak due to negative factors in our surroundings, our ability of decision making gets weak hence we have to take steps which jeopardize our prospect of success.

Now questions emerge how to save our pillar of positive thought from being corrugated by negative elements ? How to combat against the forces which pursue in debilitating strong pillar or even dont let pillar of positive thought erect in your brain ? How such negative forces trespass in periphery of your brain ? How to overcome such hazardous forces which target to destroy edifice of positive thought ?

Fundamental of our outlook depends upon the surrounding atmosphere, some of us molds the things as per our wishes and some gets molded by external forces. Those who find themselves floating as per wave have no fault because ,they are like mineral stone lying in corner of desolate place. Such stones need proper utilization. Scientists research on such mineral stone, extract things out of it thereby make such useless stone precious and significant. One of the greatest Urdu poet Dr A llama Iqbal wrote : -

                                 Pather ki bhi Taqdeer Sanwer Sakti Hai
                                  Shart Ye Hai Ke Saleeqe Se Tarasha Jaye.

Those Who have less preparation, lackadaisical in their preparation, approach and even after they think big ,are susceptible to suffer from frustration, despondency since such negativity never stepped inside sensibility of people who are sincere in thought, rationalistic in their approach. In case We come across negative thought we should believe for the time being that Failure is part and parcel of life we should not believe in saying ' Failure is the pillar of Success in stead we should find out the loopholes, shortcomings, discuss with the people who are achievers in their field, think in solitude their advice, how far can we rectify our mistakes. Secret of success is to draw positive from negative it will happen only when our surroundings are conducive too.

We should make positive mindset, never hesitate to listen good advice, forsake ego, widen our thought, our imagination even if we find that we have limited resources, success needs immense devotion,Time, dedication, love towards the targets what we set for ourselves.

Our expectation,wishes should be based on the facts that nobody is perfect so how can we expect to achieve in our life everything perfectly. Student commits suicide or goes in depression when he/she fails to get grade as per his expectation, Businessman commits suicide or goes in depression, when he looses his investment. He/She tries to commit suicide or goes in depression when he/she finds that he/she will not be able to marry with each other. Such reactions are spontaneous since they confine their thinking to a certain level beyond which they don't see anything. We should look at things and our surroundings in broad perspective. We should also believe in couplet of poem in which poet tried to convey : -

                                                  Har kisi ko Mukammal Jahan Nahi Milta
                                                  Kisi Ko Zamee To Kisi Ko Asma Nahin Milta.

We should strive to prepare our thinking in such way that even set back and failure could not deter our enthusiasm, Try to invigorate our zeal, inspire ourselves and take a new initiative with positive mindset.

How can we prepare strong and positive thinking ? Answer is crystal, clear through sincere and honest dedication towards target, work hard, integrity in purpose and foremost thing is that taking confidence of our guardian, our parents by proving that we are going in right way thereby we will also be able to get their blessings then nobody will stop us in achieving our target. Believe in ourselves, Don't take hasty step, Have patience, Concentrate on our goal, Don't involve in the things which distract us from our aim. Don't believe in saying 'Everything is possible' Nothing is possible unless you give more than 100% effort, Do emulate others who made impossible into possible, translated their dreams and imaginations into reality, but before that we shuld knote the fact in our mind they didnt budge from their target in which they had interest even after facing failures in beginning. Concentrate on the things in which we have interest, create more interest in which we have interest only then we can enhance positive thinking to achieve even impossible targets.

There are many negative elements which cross into our brain to erode our strong pillar of positive thought. What are those negative elements ? These are our dwindling self confidence, Self Comparison with unsuccessful people and get solace when we feel hopeless, For example when we start business we have to invest money later we get profit similarly in order to get great success we should do invest  success in our thinking whatever we achieved so far, instead of thinking about failures we came across. Control our anger and abstain from linking our failure to others, Don't try to harm others we think responsible for our failure.

We can further strengthen our pillar of positive thought or protect it from getting damaged. What are the elements which could impart strength to our thought. These are our determination, Willingness to stick to the target, Boost up our self confidence by remembering achievements, feats, Share our thought with those who we think can hone our positivity, engage ourselves in activities which can be instrumental in giving strength to our goal.

Enjoy the things in which we have interest, persist in our endeavor to get the target bearing in mind the fact that we may have to face some hurdle, fall down in the way but instead of loosing hope we should take a new start believing in following couplet : -

                                  Zindagi Naam Hai Harkat Ka Tum Afsurda Na Ho
                                   Doob Key Tarah Dab Dab Ke Nikalna Sikho


                                                        The End

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