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                                                            Attitude

Comments such as 'Change your attitude',  'Behave Yourself'', 'you have got some attitude' etcetera are common in day  to day life. Impact of attitude is so immense in ones life that  it determines success  as well as causes  of one failure. Question arises as  to  what is attitude ? How does it play vital role in shaping ones personality, ones careers and  become instrumental in making a different image in surrounding. Attitude can be defined in few words that ' it is reflection of mental state which shows in  behavior and activity  of a person.' The way person behaves whether positive or negative is  reflection of his mindset, his mentality.

Apparently, Formation of positive and negative attitude depend on surrounding. This is very old saying that 'a person is known by company he keeps' hence a person's identity is his attitude. Environment and activities in surrounding  play significant role in developing specific  attitude. Family environment, social environment, economical and political environment  have tremendous impact in formation of specific  thought, specific belief. Circumstances and  happenings gives them dimension  strengthen the belief which later comes out in form of  behavior. This is one aspect of  formation of ones attitude. 

Once a person asked Persian Scientist, Philosopher Abul Ali Sina ' From where he  learnt Adab ( Respect, Politeness) Abu Ali Sina replied ' Beadbon Se, ( From disrespectable and impolite  people) He elaborated  further saying that  he didn't imitate what they ( impolite and  disrespectable people ) used to do,

Some behaviors  of a person are inborn which  he inherits when he takes birth. This very behavior becomes foundation of later attitude of person. Hence that inborn behavior needs immediate attention of  the surrounding wherein he opens his yes. For example when doctor examines a patient he  discovers the disease accordingly he  gives pills to kill the disease. Similarly Inborn negative attitude needs immediate treatment  through the medicines in form of  advises, inducing wisdom, teaching so that negative attitudes  could not spread their tentacles.

How does negative attitude such as hatred, aggressiveness, jealousy, hypocrisy  meanness etcetra take place ? In fact seeds of positive and negative behaviors are inborn in every human beings, the destructive seed of hatred, jealousy sometimes takes bigger shape because of apathy of  gardener.  That in born seeds  can never be uprooted completely but its plant can be pruned to an extent so that it could  not take big shape.  On the other side, when this very  plant succeed in taking bigger shape ,small  plants in the garden put on  very shrubs of fast growing seeds of jealousy, shrewdness over them resulting loosing their own identity. If we look  at the various small plants from distance  in the garden, only shrubs of  seed of negative attitude are visible on them.


Negative attitude is also in fact outcome of compulsion one has to  come across in daily life.  Doctor says prevention is better than cure. It implies that people have to protect themselves  from  the looming disease hence they  have to take precautionary measures. It is obvious that negative attitude  contaminate our society, surrounding,  our environment. Hence for precautionary measures people are forced to wear  garb of meanness, hatred so that real  evil forces who  are in lurk to spread the diseases couldn't dare to enter in the periphery. This is sort of defensive mechanism. 



Positive attitude is self esteem, Self confidence, Optimism, looking in and around in positive way, all these traits invigorate not only on individual level  but also  enlighten the environment too wherein a person lives. Seed of positive attitude is also inborn. When gardener works on plant of negative in order to curtail its impact on its surrounding   seed of positive automatically begins to flourish. The more  effects  of negative seeds weaken, the more seed of positive attitudes gets stronger.  Sometimes  positive attitude also proves detrimental because abundance of any particular traits is not healthy. For example, when a cook  begins to prepare dish, he incorporates various  type of ingredients in right proportion to make  the dishes tasty and delicious,  because abundance of any of ingredients can ruin the taste of dishes. Human nature is also amalgamation of various traits which gives  spice to life enabling worth living, enjoying.
 
In daily life during conversation nobody keep replying only YES , at times  he  has to reply in NO too. Poise, balance between both positive and negative attitude paves the way to spend life in proper manner  with the passage of time, with the changing environment .

Stubbornness, rigidity in attitude impede ones growth. Flexibility in attitude with  the situation is one of the wise steps in  the direction of  achieving the purpose. A brief story  in this regard highlight consequence  of rigidness. 'Sunny was working in company  for the last two years. He was punctual, sincere, workaholic. Instead of distracting his mind to office politics, gossiping he concentrated on his work. He didn't indulge in  politics, his colleagues looked at him suspiciously for his activity since he didn't want to associate with any group inside the office. This very  neutral rigid attitude cost him loosing job. When company decided to retrench the employee from  company, he became scapegoat since every group in office was lobbying to save its persons from being retrenched. He was standing alone consequently he had to loose the job. Sunny could have saved his job had he changed his rigid neutral attitude.

Frequent Criticism, Appreciation of  person create mindset. Flexibility in attitude  upholding the basic positive attitude enables  a person to solve impending problems ............

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